Teach Us to Pray
- Theme:
- Learning to pray
- For:
- College students, college campus ministry
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Session 1
Summary
In Luke 11:1-4 a disciple says to Jesus, "Lord, teach us to pray," and instead of a lecture Jesus hands over actual words: the Our Father. Read alongside Matthew 6:5-15, this session takes the pressure off getting prayer right and shows that prayer is something we receive from Jesus, addressed to a Father who already knows what we need.
Leader Prep
For you, the leader, to read before the group meets. You don't need to read it aloud.
Luke 11 opens with the disciples watching Jesus pray, and when he finishes one of them asks him to teach them how. Jesus does not tell them to try harder or feel more. He gives them words: the short form of the Our Father. Matthew's fuller version, in the middle of the Sermon on the Mount, adds Jesus warning against praying to be seen and against piling up words to sound impressive, because the Father already knows what we need before we ask. Together these two passages meet the exact worry a lot of people carry: that they don't know how to start and are probably doing it wrong. The central message of this session is that when we don't know how to pray, Jesus doesn't shame us. He gives us real words and a Father to say them to. Prayer is received before it is invented. Start with something light and personal about being new at something. Move into the reading and notice the small, striking fact that the disciple asks to be taught at all, and that Jesus answers with a text they could actually say out loud. From there the group looks at how few words Jesus uses, and how Matthew frees them from performing. End by praying the Our Father together, slowly, as words handed to them rather than a routine to get through. Keep the tone easy and unimpressive on purpose. You are not teaching a technique. Let people say small, honest things. Do not ask anyone how their prayer life is going. You do not need to cover every question.
Opening Prayer
Pray this aloud, or ask someone in the group to lead it.
Begin with the Sign of the Cross: In the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit. Amen.
Father, we are here because we want to know how to talk to you, and most of us feel like we are starting from zero. Thank you that you already know that. As we read the words your Son gave his friends when they asked him to teach them, quiet the part of us that is worried about getting it wrong, and help us hear that you actually want to hear from us. We ask this through Christ our Lord. Amen.
Warm-Up
Start here to get everyone talking. Keep it light, and let each person answer briefly before you move on to the reading.
Think of something you're pretty good at now that you were completely lost at when you started. What was the first day like?
If your group is quiet: Share yours first, keep it light: "When I started my first job I had no idea what I was doing for about a month." Then ask again.When you're learning something new, do you like being handed clear instructions, or would you rather just figure it out as you go?
Most of us feel about prayer the way we feel about the first day of anything: like everyone else got instructions we missed. In the reading we're about to hear, one of Jesus' own friends admits the same thing and just asks him to teach them.
Readings
Read each passage aloud, or invite someone to read. Give the group a quiet moment afterwards before the first question.
- Luke 11:1-4
- Matthew 6:5-15
Reading Questions
These check what the passage says. Take an answer or two, gently fill in anything missed, and keep moving.
What stood out to you in these two readings?
Receiving answers: Whatever a person names, receive it and ask them to say a little more before moving on.In Luke, the disciple doesn't ask Jesus for a deep teaching about prayer. He just says, "Lord, teach us to pray." What do you make of the fact that even Jesus' close friends had to ask?
What to listen for: They watched Jesus pray all the time and still didn't assume they already knew how. Not knowing how to start puts you in good company, not outside it.Jesus answers by handing them actual words to say. Looking at the prayer in Luke, what does he tell them to ask God for?
Example answer: He starts with God, that God's name be honored and God's kingdom come, and then turns to what we need: bread for today, forgiveness, and help against temptation. Short and plain.In Matthew, Jesus warns against praying to be seen and against piling up a lot of words to be heard. What is he freeing his listeners from?
What to listen for: From performing. Jesus says the Father already knows what you need before you ask, so prayer isn't about impressing God or anyone watching.Background: See CCC 2559: prayer is simply raising the mind and heart to God. It starts from being honest and low, not from being impressive.
Application Questions
These are the heart of the discussion. You don't need to ask every question: choose the ones that fit your group and give them room. A pause is fine; let people think.
Jesus gave his friends words to pray instead of telling them to come up with their own. If prayer is something you receive rather than something you have to produce, does that change how you feel about starting?
Example answer: "For me it takes the pressure off. If Jesus handed his friends the words, I'm allowed to just borrow them instead of needing something original to say."Some of us grew up saying memorized prayers that stopped feeling like much. Hearing that Jesus himself handed over words to say, how do you hear those old prayers now?
Follow-up: Say plainly, in your own voice: memorized prayers are real prayer, not a lesser version. Jesus gave words on purpose. Then ask what they notice.Jesus said to pray "Give us this day our daily bread," one day's worth. If you tried praying about just today, what is one honest thing you'd actually bring to God?
What to listen for: Keep this low-stakes and let people pass. "Give me the words for a hard conversation." "Help me not spiral about this exam." Small and today-sized is the point.
Going Deeper
Optional. Use this if the group wants to go further, or offer it as a take-home.
The Catechism calls the Our Father the summary of the whole Gospel, and says Jesus gives us not just the words but the Spirit who makes those words come alive in us. It is meant to be prayed, not just admired.
Pick one line of the Our Father, maybe "give us this day our daily bread," and pray just that line slowly once a day for a few days, letting yourself mean it about your own actual day. You might read CCC 2761 alongside it.
Prayer Intentions
Read the invitation, then pause so anyone who wishes can offer an intention aloud. After each one, the group answers together.
Is there anything you'd like us to pray for? You're welcome to say it out loud, or just hold it quietly.
For everyone here who has wanted to pray but felt like they didn't know how or kept giving up, that they'd hear Jesus offering them words this week and take him up on it.
We pray to the Lord.
Closing Prayer
Pray this together to close. You can invite the group to read it aloud with you.
Father, we're about to walk back into full calendars and packed weeks, and it's easy to leave prayer here in this room. But your Son gave us words we can carry anywhere. This week, when we don't know what to say, remind us that we already have something to say, and that you already know what we need before we ask. Teach us to pray. We ask this in Jesus' name. Amen.
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Session 2
Summary
In Luke 11:5-8 Jesus tells a small, almost funny story: a man bangs on his friend's door at midnight asking for bread, and keeps knocking until he gets it. This session looks at what Jesus is saying about prayer through that shameless persistence, and why silence or an unanswered ask is an invitation to keep going rather than proof that prayer isn't working.
Leader Prep
For you, the leader, to read before the group meets. You don't need to read it aloud.
This parable comes right after Jesus hands over the Our Father. A disciple asked how to pray, Jesus gave the words, and now he keeps going with a story about a man who shows up at a friend's house at midnight needing bread for an unexpected guest. The friend inside says no, the door's shut, everyone's in bed. But the man outside keeps knocking, and Jesus says it's the sheer persistence, the refusal to give up, that gets him what he needs. The central message of this session is that Jesus actually authorizes bold, even shameless, persistence in prayer. Silence or a delay is not a signal to stop. It is an invitation to keep knocking. Start with something ordinary about persistence and asking for help. Move into the short parable and let the group sit with how bold, almost rude, the man at the door is, and that Jesus holds him up as an example. Then turn to what this means when prayer feels like it's going nowhere. The honest difficulty here is real: a lot of people pray, feel nothing, and quietly conclude they're doing it wrong. Name that plainly and let the passage answer it. Keep the tone warm and a little wry. This parable has some humor in it. Let people be honest about praying and feeling like nothing happened. Don't rush to tidy that up. Let the passage do it.
Opening Prayer
Pray this aloud, or ask someone in the group to lead it.
Begin with the Sign of the Cross: In the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit. Amen.
Come, Holy Spirit, fill the hearts of your faithful and kindle in them the fire of your love.
Warm-Up
Start here to get everyone talking. Keep it light, and let each person answer briefly before you move on to the reading.
When have you had to ask someone for something more than once before you finally got a yes? How did it feel to keep asking?
If your group is quiet: Keep it everyday: chasing down a professor, a landlord, a refund. "I emailed the same office four times before anyone answered." Then ask again.Are you someone who hates asking for help, or someone who'll happily keep bugging a friend until they come through?
We just talked about how it feels to keep asking. Jesus tells a story about exactly that: a man who shows up at his friend's house in the middle of the night and won't stop knocking until he gets what he needs.
Readings
Read each passage aloud, or invite someone to read. Give the group a quiet moment afterwards before the first question.
- Luke 11:5-8
Reading Questions
These check what the passage says. Take an answer or two, gently fill in anything missed, and keep moving.
What's your first reaction to this little story?
Receiving answers: Whatever they say, receive it and ask them to say more. Some may notice it's funny, some may find the guy annoying. Both are doors in.Walk through what happens: what does the man at the door want, and what's the friend inside's first answer?
Example answer: The man needs three loaves because a guest arrived and he has nothing to feed him. The friend inside says no: the door's shut, the kids are in bed, don't bother me.Jesus says it's not friendship that finally gets the man his bread, but his refusal to stop knocking. Why do you think Jesus makes persistence the point, and not being polite or deserving?
What to listen for: Jesus isn't saying God is a reluctant neighbor. He's making a smaller-to-greater point: if even a grumpy friend gives in to persistence, how much more will God respond to yours.The man at the door is honestly a little shameless. Jesus holds him up as the example anyway. What does that suggest Jesus thinks is okay to bring to God?
What to listen for: That we can come boldly, needy, even a little demanding, and still be doing it right. Jesus isn't embarrassed by the man's nerve. He commends it.Background: See CCC 2613, which draws from this parable the boldness that belongs to Christian prayer: the freedom of a child asking a parent, not the caution of a stranger.
Application Questions
These are the heart of the discussion. You don't need to ask every question: choose the ones that fit your group and give them room. A pause is fine; let people think.
A lot of us have prayed for something, heard nothing back, and quietly figured we were doing it wrong or God wasn't listening. In this story, how does Jesus treat the gap between asking and getting?
Follow-up: Say it plainly: in this story the delay is not a no and not a failure. It's the space where the knocking keeps happening. Then ask what they make of that.If persistence in prayer isn't nagging God or wearing him down, but just staying in the conversation, what would it look like to keep knocking about one thing this week?
Example answer: "There's one thing I've basically given up praying about. Maybe keeping knocking just means bringing it up again, honestly, instead of assuming the answer's no."Prayer that feels like nothing is happening is one of the main reasons people quit. What actually makes it hard to keep showing up when you don't feel much back?
What to listen for: Let people be honest: it feels pointless, or like talking to the ceiling, or one more thing to keep up. Don't fix it. This sets up the promise the group will hear next session.Background: See CCC 2728, which names dryness and "what good does it do to pray?" as ordinary struggles, met by humility, trust, and perseverance, not by a technique.
Going Deeper
Optional. Use this if the group wants to go further, or offer it as a take-home.
St. Teresa of Avila described prayer as nothing more than spending time with a friend who we know loves us. That reframes persistence: you're not pestering a stranger for a favor, you're staying in a conversation with someone who's glad you keep coming back.
Pick one thing you'd honestly stopped praying about, and bring it to God once a day for a week, even in a single sentence, without needing to feel anything happen. Just keep knocking.
Prayer Intentions
Read the invitation, then pause so anyone who wishes can offer an intention aloud. After each one, the group answers together.
Is there something you'd like this group to keep knocking on with you? You can name it out loud, or just hold it quietly.
For anyone who has been praying about the same thing for a long time with no sign of an answer, that they'd have the boldness to keep bringing it to God instead of giving up.
We pray to the Lord.
Closing Prayer
Pray this together to close. You can invite the group to read it aloud with you.
Father, some of us are carrying prayers that feel like they've gone nowhere, and we've been tempted to stop. Give us the nerve of the man at the door. Help us keep knocking this week, not because we're anxious you won't answer, but because your Son told us we can come to you like that. Keep us in the conversation. We ask this through Christ our Lord. Amen.
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Session 3
Summary
In Luke 11:9-13 Jesus promises that everyone who asks receives, and then compares God to a human parent: if you know how to give your kids good things, how much more will the Father give the Holy Spirit to those who ask. Read with Romans 8:14-16 and 8:26-27, this session lands on who we're actually praying to, and the reassurance that the Spirit prays inside us even when we can't find the words.
Leader Prep
For you, the leader, to read before the group meets. You don't need to read it aloud.
This is the end of Jesus' teaching on prayer in Luke 11. He's given the words and told the parable about persistence, and now he makes the promise plain: ask, seek, knock. Then he grounds it in something everyone can picture. No decent parent hands their kid a stone when they ask for bread, or a snake when they ask for a fish. If flawed human parents know how to give good things, Jesus says, how much more will the Father give the Holy Spirit to those who ask. Paul, in Romans 8, fills this out: the Spirit is the one who makes us cry out "Abba, Father," and the same Spirit prays inside us when we're weak and don't even know what to ask for. The central message of this session is that the Father we approach is better than any parent, and the best thing he gives in answer to prayer is the Holy Spirit, who himself prays in us when we can't. Start with something warm and ordinary about a parent or someone who came through for them. Move into Luke's promise and the parent comparison, and notice the surprise at the end: the gift Jesus names is the Spirit, not just stuff. Then bring in Romans 8 to answer the fear that's been under this whole guide: what if I don't have the words. Name that plainly, and let Paul's answer land: when we don't know how to pray, the Spirit prays in us. Handle the father image gently, since for some the word "father" doesn't carry warmth. Say clearly that Jesus is describing a Father better than the one anyone here had, not the one they had over again. Keep the tone reassuring and unhurried. This is where the whole set lands. Let people leave with less pressure, not more.
Opening Prayer
Pray this aloud, or ask someone in the group to lead it.
Begin with the Sign of the Cross: In the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit. Amen.
Father, we've spent this time learning that your Son wants us to come to you and keep coming. Now we want to hear what kind of Father we're actually coming to. As we read, free us from measuring you by anyone who let us down, and help us believe that you actually want to give us good things, most of all your own Spirit. We ask this in Jesus' name. Amen.
Warm-Up
Start here to get everyone talking. Keep it light, and let each person answer briefly before you move on to the reading.
Who is someone in your life who's just reliably come through for you when you needed something? What did they do?
If your group is quiet: Share a small one first: "My roommate covered my shift the day my grandmother died, no questions asked." Then ask again.What's a good gift someone gave you that you didn't even know to ask for?
We just named people who came through for us. Jesus finishes teaching about prayer by telling us exactly who we're talking to, and he says the Father we're bringing our asks to is better than any parent we've known.
Readings
Read each passage aloud, or invite someone to read. Give the group a quiet moment afterwards before the first question.
- Luke 11:9-13
- Romans 8:14-27
Reading Questions
These check what the passage says. Take an answer or two, gently fill in anything missed, and keep moving.
Does anything in these two readings speak to you about learning to pray?
Receiving answers: Whatever a person names, receive it and ask them to say a little more before you move on.In Luke, Jesus pictures a kid asking a parent for food. What point is he making by comparing that parent to God?
Example answer: That God is even more willing to give than a decent parent. If flawed people know how to give their kids good things, the Father gives far more, and gladly.Jesus builds up to a specific answer to prayer at the very end. What does he say the Father gives to those who ask?
What to listen for: The Holy Spirit. That's the surprise: after all the talk of bread and fish, the gift Jesus names is God's own Spirit, not just the things we asked for.For some of us the word "father" doesn't automatically mean someone safe or dependable. Reading Jesus' comparison closely, is he telling us God is like the fathers we've had, or setting God apart from them?
Background: Say it clearly: Jesus is drawing a contrast, not a match. God is better than the best parent, not a repeat of a bad one. If someone's image of "father" is painful, this passage is arguing against that image, not confirming it.Background: See CCC 2779, which says we have to strip away the false pictures of God we've built from wounded human fatherhood, and let God tell us who he actually is.In Romans 8, Paul says the Spirit helps us when we're weak and don't know what to ask for, praying in us with groans too deep for words. What does that say to someone who feels like they never have the right words?
What to listen for: That not having the words isn't a disqualification. Paul says the Spirit is already praying inside you underneath the words, even when you're at a total loss.
Application Questions
These are the heart of the discussion. You don't need to ask every question: choose the ones that fit your group and give them room. A pause is fine; let people think.
Through this whole guide a quiet fear has been in the room: what if I do this and still don't feel anything, or still can't find the words. How does "the Spirit prays in us when we don't know how" speak to that fear?
Follow-up: Name it in your own voice first: prayer working does not mean feeling something. Paul locates real prayer underneath our feelings, in the Spirit, not in whether we felt moved. Then ask.Example answer: "When I sit down and my mind just wanders and I feel nothing, I'd been calling that a failed prayer. Maybe the Spirit was praying in me the whole time and I just couldn't feel it."Jesus says the best thing the Father gives is his own Spirit, not just the things we ask for. If that's the deepest answer to prayer, does it change what you'd hope to get out of praying?
Example answer: "I've mostly prayed for outcomes. Hearing that God's answer is giving me himself is different, and honestly kind of a relief."After these weeks, what's one small, doable way you'd actually keep showing up to pray, knowing it doesn't have to feel like anything or sound impressive?
What to listen for: Keep it concrete and small: five minutes at the same time each day, one honest sentence, one line of Scripture, praying once with a friend. Starting and starting again after forgetting both count.If your group is quiet: If the room's quiet, offer your own: "For me it's one sentence to God on the walk to my first class." Then wait.
Going Deeper
Optional. Use this if the group wants to go further, or offer it as a take-home.
Paul says the Spirit makes us cry out "Abba, Father," which is about as intimate and unguarded as a word for a parent gets. That's the confidence Jesus is handing us: we get to talk to God with the freedom of a child who knows they belong.
Sometime soon, sit for five minutes and just say to God, in your own plain words, "Abba, Father, here I am," and then say one honest thing. If your mind wanders, start again. That counts. You might read Romans 8:14-16 first.
Prayer Intentions
Read the invitation, then pause so anyone who wishes can offer an intention aloud. After each one, the group answers together.
As we finish, is there anything you'd like us to pray for? Say it aloud, or just hold it quietly before God.
For everyone here who is trying to start praying again, that when they sit down and feel nothing, they'd trust that the Spirit is praying in them and keep showing up.
We pray to the Lord.
Closing Prayer
Pray this together to close. You can invite the group to read it aloud with you.
Father, we're going back out to weeks with no room in them, and it would be easy to let all of this fade. But your Son told us you're better than any parent we've had, and that you give us your own Spirit when we ask. So this week, when we sit down to pray and feel nothing, or can't find a single word, remind us that your Spirit is already praying in us. Keep us coming back to you, badly and briefly and often, for as long as it takes. We ask this through Christ our Lord. Amen.
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