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The Father Who Runs to Meet You

Theme:
Forgiveness and the sacrament of Reconciliation
For:
Parents, sacramental preparation for First Reconciliation

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Summary

In the parable of the prodigal son in Luke 15:11-32, a father sees his lost son coming home while the son is still a long way off, and he runs out to meet him before the son can even finish his apology. This session looks at that welcome as the picture of what God offers us in Reconciliation. You are about to prepare your child to receive this sacrament, and this story is just as much for you.

Leader Prep

For you, the leader, to read before the group meets. You don't need to read it aloud.

Jesus tells this parable in Luke 15 to a specific audience. Some of the scribes and Pharisees were complaining that Jesus welcomed sinners and ate with them. In answer, Jesus tells three stories about something lost and found: a sheep, a coin, and finally a son. All three end in the same place, with joy over one person who comes back. So the prodigal son is not first about a young man's mistakes. It is about how God receives someone who returns. The central message of this session is simple: God's mercy does not wait for us to earn our way back. The father runs to the son while the son is still far off and still rehearsing his apology. That is the heart of what happens in Reconciliation. The conversation starts with an ordinary experience of being welcomed home. Then the group reads the parable and notices the concrete details: the son's rehearsed speech, the father running, the robe and the ring, and the older brother standing outside. From there the group moves to what this means for the people in the room, who are preparing a child for this sacrament and, for many, have not been to confession in a long time themselves. Keep the tone warm and matter of fact. A little humor about grown-up nerves is welcome. You are not here to get anyone to sign up for confession before they leave, and you are not here to grade anyone. Let the father in the story do the work. Give people room to be quiet. One honest truth per point is plenty.

Opening Prayer

Pray this aloud, or ask someone in the group to lead it.

Begin with the Sign of the Cross: In the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit. Amen.

Lord Jesus, you welcomed sinners and sat down to eat with them. We come tonight to help our children get ready to be forgiven by you, and we come carrying our own hesitations too. Open our ears to hear this story as if for the first time. Take away our fear of being judged here, and let us see how you actually meet the one who comes home. Amen.

Warm-Up

Start here to get everyone talking. Keep it light, and let each person answer briefly before you move on to the reading.

  1. Have you ever been really glad to see someone come home or come back into your life? What was that moment like?

    If your group is quiet: Share your own answer first, then ask again: "Maybe someone came back from a long trip, or someone you had not seen in years finally showed up. What did you do when you saw them?" Then wait.

  2. When it comes to going to confession, what makes grown-ups more nervous than kids about it?

    Receiving answers: Keep this light and let people laugh a little; the point is to name out loud that this is awkward for adults, not to draw anyone out about their own history.

That feeling of being genuinely glad to see someone walk back through the door is where this next story lives. Jesus tells about a son who leaves his father and wastes everything, and about the father who sees him coming home and runs.

Readings

Read each passage aloud, or invite someone to read. Give the group a quiet moment afterwards before the first question.

  • Luke 15:1-32

Reading Questions

These check what the passage says. Take an answer or two, gently fill in anything missed, and keep moving.

  1. What stood out to you most in this story?

    Receiving answers: Whatever a person names, receive it and ask them to say a little more before moving on.

  2. Before Jesus tells the story of the son, he tells two shorter ones about a lost sheep and a lost coin. Why do you think Jesus told all three of these together?

    Example answer: All three end with joy over one lost thing that is found. Together they say the point is God searching for the sinner, not the sinner earning his way back.

  3. The younger son practices what he is going to say to his father on the way home. What does he plan to say?

    Example answer: He plans to admit he has sinned against heaven and against his father, and to say he is no longer worthy to be called a son, asking only to be treated like one of the hired workers.
    Background: This rehearsed speech is close to what an examination of conscience is: honestly naming what we have done wrong before we come back. See CCC 1454 on preparing by examining our conscience.

  4. The son is still a long way off when the father sees him. What does the father do at that moment?

    Example answer: The father sees the son while the son is still far away, is moved with pity, runs to him, throws his arms around him, and kisses him, all before the son says a word.
    Background: The Catechism reads this exact moment as the center of the parable, describing the merciful father's welcome and joy. See CCC 1439.

  5. The son only gets partway through his apology before the father interrupts and starts calling for a robe, a ring, and a feast. What does that tell us about what the father wanted?

    What to listen for: The father was not waiting for the perfect apology or for the son to prove himself. He wanted his son back, and he says it plainly: this son was dead and is alive again, was lost and is found.

  6. The older son has never left home, yet he stands outside and will not come in to the party. What is he upset about?

    Example answer: He is angry that he has served faithfully for years and never got a party, while his brother wasted everything and gets a feast. He cannot see that being always with the father was itself the gift.
    Receiving answers: Let this sit without resolving it too fast. Someone in the room may quietly recognize the older brother, the one who feels they have been good enough not to need any of this.

Application Questions

These are the heart of the discussion. You don't need to ask every question: choose the ones that fit your group and give them room. A pause is fine; let people think.

  1. The son rehearses a whole speech, but the father runs before hearing any of it. If God is already running toward us like that, how does that change the way you picture going to confession?

    Example answer: You might say: "I always pictured confession as an exam I was going to fail. This father is not grading his son. He is just glad he came home. That is a completely different thing."

  2. A lot of us carry the idea that a quiet, private sorry to God on our own is enough, so why go to a priest at all? What do you make of that?

    Background: Being sorry to God is real and it matters. But Christ chose to give his own power to forgive to the apostles and their successors, so that confessing to a priest is being forgiven by Christ himself through the Church, out loud, where we can actually hear it. The priest is not a judge grading you; he is where Christ's mercy meets you. See John 20:21-23 and CCC 1441-1442.

  3. Some of us quietly wonder if we have done anything bad enough to bother, and others quietly wonder if some things are too big or too old to bring. What do you hear in this story for both of those?

    What to listen for: The son thought he had gone too far to be a son anymore, and the father did not agree. Nothing here is too old or too far gone; the father runs the whole distance.
    Receiving answers: This is a place to be gentle and unhurried. Do not press anyone to say where they land. Let the father's running speak.

  4. You are about to help your child get ready for this sacrament. What is one plain, honest thing you could say to your child about why you go too, or why it matters?

    Example answer: You might say: "I could just tell my kid the steps. But I think it would mean more if I said, in normal words, that grown-ups go too, and that being forgiven is one of the best feelings there is."

Going Deeper

Optional. Use this if the group wants to go further, or offer it as a take-home.

Saint Augustine spent years knowing he should return to God and putting it off, sure he was not ready and half afraid of what letting go would cost him. In Book VIII of his Confessions he finally comes home, and he discovers that the God he had kept at arm's length had been waiting for him the whole time. His story is a mirror for any adult who has stayed away a long while and wonders if it is too late to walk back in.

Sometime this week, read CCC 1468-1470 on your own, on what this sacrament actually does, and ask yourself which line the son in the parable would have recognized when his father put the robe on him.

Sources: St. Augustine, Confessions, Book VIII

Prayer Intentions

Read the invitation, then pause so anyone who wishes can offer an intention aloud. After each one, the group answers together.

Is there anything you would like us to pray for as you get ready to bring your child to this sacrament? You are welcome to say it aloud, or just hold it quietly.

For any parent here who has stayed away from confession for years and feels it is too late or too awkward to go back, that they would know God is already running out to meet them.

We pray to the Lord.

Closing Prayer

Pray this together to close. You can invite the group to read it aloud with you.

Father, you saw your son while he was still a long way off, and you ran to meet him. As we walk back out into our ordinary days, help us remember that you are already running toward us. Take the embarrassment and the pride that keep so many of us at a distance, and give us the courage to take one honest step home. Bless the children we are preparing, and let them learn from us that being forgiven is nothing to be afraid of. Meet each of us the way you met that son, and welcome us. Amen.

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